- Cherished Friendships (10/8/2017) -
I called an old high school classmate (Hubert) the other day to find out how his cancer battle was progressing. We ended our conversation with him
telling me that he prayed for me every day. I was somewhat taken aback. My prayers always include those I care about that are sick, or are in need of
other blessings. I was praying for my friend to be healed from his cancer,
and he was praying that I never have to go through what he currently
experiences every day of his life. The one thing I have learned during my
28,000 spins on this wonderful planet, is that it is possible to learn
something new every single day. Kahlil Gibran said it so wisely; "You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might also pray in the
fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance". Thank you, Hubert,
for a lesson well learned.
😊"Heirlooms we don't have in our family, but stories we've got."
I ran across this quote the other day, and it brought a big smile to my face. I thought it probably applied to my family as well. The Hale family tree is
quite large, and as you would suspect, alot happened. I can easily remember the stories told to me about our family as I was growing up. The one thing I
knew as a kid was that the women in our family held it together. My great-grandfather (Pap) was born in 1868 and was 73 when I was born. Grandpa
(1892) was 49 when I was born, so they were well past their heyday. My dad
and his brothers were right in the middle of theirs while I was an adolescent. Ah, the family secrets I still carry tucked away inside somewhere! They were all good, hard-working men that
just loved having fun.
All three were coal miners so when the weekend came, it was time to do some fun stuff.
During that timeframe, few had a TV (1940s - early 1950's), most had a radio. A few had a refrigerator, and some had a telephone. Could you
imagine taking a young person from our society today and placing them in
that environment? I think a lot of society's sins are committed because of
I grew up loving my dad and his brothers, but they definitely were not role models, and I suspect they didn't want to be. As with anyone important in
your life, you select the traits they have that you think are good and
disregard those unwanted. My father had the most influence on me, and I
owe him a lot. It was from him that I learned what it meant to be a man. If I distilled it down into one thing, it would be that you own your life and no
one else decides what you do with it. If you make bad decisions, others may
determine your punishment, but you are the one that placed yourself in that situation. Dad passed away in 1988, and I still miss him. I never recall him
blaming someone else for his bad luck. I wonder how many of us can say
😊Recently, my wife and I took a trip to Lancaster, Pa. We attended two
very good shows ("Pippin" at the Dutch Apple Dinner Theater &
Sight and Sound Theater).
My wife loves to visit antique shops, so she had a good time looking over the
items they had for sale in that area. We did, in fact, return home with a
couple of interesting items.
As I was driving through a rural area on our return home, with my wife
napping as we cruised along, I spotted an old, rusty, pickup truck ahead of
us. There were two people in it, and I noticed the woman was setting next to her husband with a lot of empty space between her and the passenger door. Ok, I'm thinking it has to be a young couple because they are sitting so close together. Nevertheless, as I got closer, I could tell they were at least in their
mid-70's. A big smile slowly swept across my face.
What a wonderful thing to see, love still evident in a couple married perhaps 50+ years. I have witnessed many beautiful things in my life, but none as
wondrous as seeing two people truly in love long after passion has fluttered away, looking for someone else to drive crazy.
As I slowly drove past them, it appeared as if no one else was in their world, and I was like a piece of space debris, unnoticed, zipping past earth at a
blinding speed. Somehow, I hope my marriage is like that, and I truly believe it is.
John Hobbes said it best; "A woman would no doubt need a great deal of imagination to love a man for his virtue." I'm glad my wife has a good
😊A friend sent this to me, and I couldn't resist including it in this missive: Start with a cage containing five monkeys. Inside the cage, hang a banana
on a string and place a set of stairs under it. Before long, one of the monkeyswill go to the stairs and start to climb towards the banana.
As soon as he touches the stairs, all the monkeys are sprayed with cold
After a while, another monkey makes an attempt with the same result - all
the monkeys are sprayed with cold water. Pretty soon, none of the monkeys will try to climb the stairs.
Now, take away the cold water. Remove one monkey from the cage and
replace it with a new one. The new monkey sees the banana and wants to
climb the stairs. To his surprise, all the other monkeys attack him. After
another attempt and attack, he knows that if he tries to climb the stairs, he will be assaulted. Next, remove another of the original five monkeys and
replace it with a new one. The newcomer goes to the stairs and is attacked.
The previous newcomer takes part in the punishment with enthusiasm!
Likewise, replace a third original monkey with a new one, then a fourth, then the fifth.
Every time the newest monkey goes to the stairs, he is attacked.
Most of the monkeys that are beating him have no idea why they were not
permitted to climb the stairs, or why they are participating in the beating of the newest monkey.
After replacing all the original monkeys, none of the remaining monkeys
have ever been sprayed with cold water. Nevertheless, no monkey ever again approaches the stairs to try for the banana. Why not?? Because as far as
they know that's the way it's always been done around here.
And that, my friends, is how company policy begins.
I hope that story made you laugh out loud. I know I did 😊.
Wherever you are on this wonderful planet, may your life be as good, and
your friends and family, be as kind as mine…..Tommy