Rules For Old Age

I didn’t write the “Rules For A Good Old Age” and I have absolutely no idea who did, but I believe there is a lot of good advice for those of us that are kinda “long in the tooth”. ​​ I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I did.

Rules for a Good Old Age

  • It's time to use the money you saved up. ​​ Use it and enjoy it. ​​ Don't just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. ​​ Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard-earned capital. ​​ Enjoy the present moment. The sand in the clock may run out at any moment.

  • Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren. You've taken care of them for many years, and you've taught them what you could. ​​ You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. ​​ The responsibility is now theirs to earn their way.

  • Keep a healthy life​​ with moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. ​​ It's easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. ​​ Keep in touch with your doctor, get tested even when you're feeling well. ​​ Stay informed.

  • Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. ​​ The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. ​​ One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then. ​​ Enjoy it together.

  • Don't stress over the little things. ​​ You've already overcome so much in your life. ​​ You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. ​​ Don't let the past drag you down or the future frighten you.

  • Regardless of age, always keep love alive. ​​ Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor, your surroundings, your country. ​​ We are never old as long as we have intelligence and affection.

  • Be proud, both inside and out. ​​ Don't stop going to your hair salon or barber. ​​ Do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist. ​​ Keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. ​​ When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong on the inside.

  • Don't lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There's nothing sillier than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. ​​ You've developed your own sense of what looks good on you - keep it and be proud of it. ​​ It's part of who you are.

  • Read newspapers, watch the news. ​​ Go online and read what people are saying. ​​ Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. ​​ You'll be surprised which old friends you'll meet. ​​ Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

  • Respect the younger generation and their opinions. ​​ They may not have the same viewpoints as ours, but they are the future and will take the world in​​ their direction. ​​ Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday's wisdom that still applies today.

  • Never use the phrase: ​​ "In my time." ​​ Your time is now. ​​ As long as you're alive, you are part of this time. ​​ You have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.

  • Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. ​​ Life is too short to waste your days in the latter mode. ​​ Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it'll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. ​​ Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.

  • Do not surrender to the​​ temptation of living with your​​ children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). ​​ Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. ​​​​ They need theirs and you need​​ yours. ​​ If you've​​ lost your partner (our deepest​​ condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.

  • Don't abandon your hobbies. ​​ If you don't have any, make new ones. ​​ You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. ​​ You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess dominoes, golf. ​​ You can paint, volunteer at an NGO or collect certain items. ​​ Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

  • Even if you don't feel like it, try to accept invitations. ​​ Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. ​​ Try to go. ​​ Get out​​ of the house, meet people you haven't seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). ​​ But don't get upset when you're not invited. ​​ Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. ​​ The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. ​​ Go to museums, go walk through a field. ​​ Get out there.

  • ​​ Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. ​​ Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. ​​ That's a great way of reducing the desire to speak with you. ​​ Listen first and answer questions, but don't go off into long stories unless asked to. ​​ Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. ​​ Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. ​​ Always find some good things to say as well.

  • Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. ​​ Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we're all going through. ​​ Try to minimize them in your mind. ​​ They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you. ​​ If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.

  • If you've been offended by others, forgive them. ​​ If you've offended someone - apologize. ​​ Don't drag​​ resentment around with you. ​​ It will make you sad and​​ bitter. ​​ It doesn't matter who was right. ​​ Someone once said, "Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die." ​​ Don't take that poison. ​​ Forgive and move on with your life.

  • If you have a strong belief, savor it. ​​ But don't waste your time trying to convince others. ​​ They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. ​​ Live your faith and set an example. ​​ Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.

  • Laugh. ​​ Laugh A LOT. ​​ Laugh at everything. ​​ Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. ​​ You managed to have a life, a long one. ​​ Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life. ​​ But you did.​​ So,​​ what's not to laugh about? ​​ Find the humor in your situation.

  • Take no notice of what others say about you and even less of what they might be thinking. ​​ They'll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you've achieved. ​​ Let them talk and don't worry. ​​ They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life you've lived so far. ​​ There's still much to be written, so get busy writing and don't waste time thinking about what others might think. ​​ Now is the time to be free, at peace and as happy as you can be!


Rules For Old Age

Rules For Old Age

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